Monday, December 31, 2018

2018 In the Books

I love to read.

You probably know this.

But when I was going to school from 2014-2017, my reading habits changed. While I delighted in a lot of the reading required for my degree, I had to set aside reading for leisure. This year I've been able to start reading for my own enjoyment again.

My grand total of books read in 2018 is 47 (with 16 unfinished).*

(I have no expectation from year to year about the number of books I read. It just happens to be 47 this year. It could be five, or it could be 100. It doesn't matter to me as long as I enjoyed getting to that number).

This year I started listening to more audiobooks. I feel like I have a good balance between "listening" and "reading." It used to bother me when people claimed they "read" a book, but they actually "listened" to it. Now, I'm on that bandwagon. If I listened to it, I say I "read" it. Listening to the written word still takes skill.

Here are a few of the books I read in 2018:

Book I'd most like to see made into a movie:



I picked up a copy of this book from the "Lucky Day" shelf at the library. This is where they have a few designated copies of books that are currently popular (and have a lengthy hold list) available to check out for 7 days. I knew nothing about the book, but the title intrigued me.

In this story, a man wakes up in the body of a different person each day and experiences the events of a murder at Blackheath Manor. It's like a cross between Groundhog Day, Downton Abbey, Clue, and Back to the Future.

What a mess, right?

The book was confusing and jumpy, and it made my brain hurt. By the end, I probably only comprehended about 65% of it, but it was also really clever and would have required a lot of organization to write. Even with the difficulty in keeping everything straight, I thought this book was pretty awesome. Throughout the entire thing, I couldn't stop thinking, "This would make a really cool movie!"


Most interesting memoir:


Educated has gotten a lot of buzz this year, and rightly so. It's written in a way that reads a lot like a novel. The memoir is about Tara Westover who was raised in the mountains of Idaho by a manipulative and abusive father and a brain-washed mother. This memoir fed my fascination with family theory and made me want to write an essay about the Westover family from a social exchange and family systems perspective.

Interestingly, Tara Westover is still quite young  (32), and her parents and siblings are still living, meaning this memoir is only the beginning. She potentially has years ahead of her in which this story continues.


The book I probably needed the most:



Whenever I read a book like this, I try really hard to not put pressure on myself to become something I'm not. I'm getting better and better at discerning which aspects of another person's lifestyle and experience serve me well and which ones are "not for me."

Essentialism is all about simplifying and saying "yes" to the right things and "no" to all the rest. While I don't ascribe to 100% of this mentality, there are some practices outlined by McKeown that have been good for me.


Book that inspired the most continued learning:



A lot of books I read (even fictional ones and ones I don't like) inspire me to learn more about a topic or person. I often follow-up with podcasts, interviews, and articles to give me more insight and expand my knowledge.

For some reason, despite never having had an interest in Church history, I got really caught up in Saints. What I enjoy most about history is the interactions and behaviors of people - I'm fascinated by why people do the things they do.

As I read Saints in September, I kept a journal about my thoughts and impressions. I listened to the podcasts the Mormon Channel did on Saints, and I took a trip to the Church History Museum. I also read other Church history books that go into more depth. I'm still on this course of study and am currently reading Doctrine and Covenants and Church History in the Fulness of Times. 


Biggest surprise:



One aspect of reading that makes me incredibly happy is picking up a book at random, having no expectations, and discovering that it is amazing! That is what happened with the Chilbury Ladies Choir.

I found this book on the "Reader's Choice" shelf at the library. Every quarter, the Salt Lake County Library system does a "Reader's Choice" competition. There is a selection of books to read and vote on for a few months, and then one book is appointed the winner.

I've found some great books through Reader's Choice... I've also found some pretty awful ones.

When I picked up the Chilbury Ladies Choir, it was at random, and I knew there was a good chance I wouldn't actually read it.

And I didn't.

It came due before I started it, and I took it back and moved on. But for some reason, I put the audiobook on hold on Overdrive - again thinking I probably wouldn't listen to it. I mean, "Chilbury Ladies Choir" sounds pretty boring (I'm still kind of shocked that I selected it at all).

The audiobook came in right as we were leaving on our trip to Lake Tahoe in July, and I ended up starting it on our drive. It was a pleasant surprise! I spent every spare second of our vacation listening to this book, and I felt lonely when it ended. I loved the readers and the characters, and this may be a pretty bold statement, but I think this was my favorite book I read this year!

The Chilbury Ladies Choir is a story of women coming together in times of trial and of the healing power of music. And if that all sounds too fluffy for you, perhaps you will be enticed by the conniving, old, baby-swapping midwife.

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Here are some other books I read and wrote about in 2018:

Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown
Lighten Up!  by Chieko Okazaki
Harry Potter 1-3

*Someone asked for clarification on my numbers. The 16 unfinished are not part of my total of 47. Forty-seven is the number of books I read from beginning to end. 

Sunday, December 30, 2018

It Happened in 2018

January

  • I turned 34
  • I locked my keys in my car 
  • Scotty went to North Carolina to close the Raleigh Temple for renovation

February


March

  • Scotty traveled to Washington DC to close the temple for renovation
  • Scotty's grandpa passed away
  • Scotty had a reassignment at work and stopped traveling

April

May

  • Eva potty trained
  • Scotty had a vasectomy (it was my anniversary gift)
  • We celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary
  • Went on a mini family vacation to Park City
  • Took two trips to the ER because I had really bad pain in my lower right abdomen (they never found anything. It went away on it's own the day before I went to see a surgeon, but I can still feel a sensation in that spot from time to time)
  • Took a mini family vacation to Vernal

June


July


August

  • Cafe Rio moved
  • The kids went back to school
  • I sprained my ankle
  • Scotty was called to be Young Men president

September


October

  • Hosted a community trunk or treat with "the band"

November

  • Zoe turned 6
  • Went to California for my sister-in-law's wedding
  • Scotty had a reassignment at work and will start traveling again

December

  • Locked my keys in the car twice in one week (but please note that I went almost a whole year without locking my keys in my car)
  • Nicky injured his face and got to go to the ER
  • Nicky turned 12
  • Nicky was ordained a deacon and received the Aaronic priesthood

Friday, December 28, 2018

How Winter Break is Going

"Can I have hot chocolate?"
"Mom?"
Snow clothes on, snow clothes off.
"Can I take a bath?"
Pick up random garbage from all over the house.
All children awake at 6:30.
"Get me me milk!"
Family party.
"Mom, she's putting her feet on me!"
"Can I have hot chocolate?"
"Can I play a game on your phone?"
Load of laundry.
"MOM!"
Snow clothes on, snow clothes off.
Family party.
"Can I have a cupcake?"
Wipe the melted snow off the floor.
"Can we go bowling?"
"Can a friend come over?"
Load of laundry.
All children awake at 5:15.
"I'm bored!"
"Get me me milk!"
"Mom! Mom! Mom!"
Wipe the melted snow off the floor.
"When are we going to eat?"
"Look at this!"
Snow clothes on, snow clothes off.
"Mom, come wipe my bum!"
Gather up the wet gloves.
"I need a bandaid!"
"What are we doing today?"
"Mama! Mama! Mama!"
All children awake at 6:30.
Load of laundry.
"Get me me milk!"
"What's for lunch?"
Birthday party.
"What are we going to do today?"
"My shoes feel funny!"
Load of laundry.
"MOM!"
"It's all _______'s fault!"
"Watch this!"
"Can I take a bath?"
Pick up random garbage from all over the house.
"Mom, I want pink hair!"
"Can I have hot chocolate?"
"Can I take a bath?"
"Get me me milk!"
"Has anyone seen my candy cane?"
"MOOOOOOM!"
Load of laundry.
All kids awake at 6:30.
"Can I play a game on your phone?"
"Have you seen my ______?"
Snow clothes on, snow clothes off.
"My pants are too tight!"
"Mom, I don't want pink hair anymore!"
"Can a friend come over?"
"Get me me milk!"
"It wasn't me!"
"MOOOOM!"

Thursday, December 27, 2018

Twelve Years

Twelve years ago today, this was me:

Baby 1 009

I was kind of in labor with Nicky. I was 41 weeks pregnant, and my body would not cooperate. We joke that Nicky didn't want to come to this world (I can't blame him!) He didn't want to be conceived, and he didn't want to be birthed, and after he was forced out, he screamed for hours.

This was me with Nicky the day we came home from the hospital.

Baby 1 073

was not okay, but I put on a brave face. I had post-partum depression,* and it hit immediately. I felt so ashamed of myself for the way I felt. Even now, I have a hard time telling people exactly what I was thinking during that time, but even though I was overwhelmed with distorted thoughts, it didn't diminish my love for Nicky.

He was the most beautiful child.

Baby Nicky
{five days old}

In many ways, it feels like I've always had Nicky in my life, but in other ways it feels like he just came here. Of course he's twelve! Yet... how can he be twelve already?

Nicky has been such a joy to raise. He has been difficult at times, but so incredibly amazing at others. He has a heart of gold and the best sense of humor. He is genuinely funny and very clever. He writes the silliest stories and draws really hilarious cartoons. He's quick-witted and creative. I hope someday he writes a book. 

He has wanted to be a chicken farmer since he was very little (he announced this at his preschool graduation, much to our surprise). Right now he is passionate about golf, food, Dude Perfect, Nerf, food, Disneyland, and food. His fashion sense is very unique - he wears Hawaiian shirts and gym shorts every day and rarely dons a coat. In fact, just this morning I said, "Nicky, do you realize that people will think I'm a bad mom when they see you with no coat on?" and he said, "I can't help it, I'm a man of the woods." 

(I explained that a man of the woods probably wears a coat. I mean, 75% of the Justin Timberlakes are at least wearing long sleeves, but whatever...)


Lately Nicky has started wearing church shoes with his Hawaiian shirts and gym shorts, and today he asked me to buy him a Callaway pull-over. He told me he wants to look more like a businessman. 

(So is he a man of the woods or a businessman? I don't really know. And where do the Hawaiian shirts fit in?)

Nicky's childhood is fleeting, but there are some child-like attributes he still holds to - not in a way that makes him immature, but in a way that a twelve-year-old boy should still be a child. Nicky loves riding his bike and being outside. He likes to shoot his BB gun and tie knots with rope. He enjoys cooking and grilling and even insisted on baking his own birthday cupcakes today. He likes to read books with fun facts, like Weird but True, and today at the library he bought a used copy of a National Geographic Book about things that stink (he already read the whole thing and can tell you all about skunks and landfills if you ask him).

He does well in school and picks up on things easily. He has a knack for board games. He's very interested in movie credits and does really well with remembering names and facts. He knows all the pop culture references and picks up quickly on allusions in film and books. Nicky is frugal and good at saving money. He fights back about chores and hates showering, but overall, he is a very responsible kid. We can trust him, and that's a wonderful thing that I hope remains true in the coming years. 

Nicky is so much fun to be around, and he keeps us laughing! It's been a good twelve years despite the rocky start. We are so blessed to be the parents of this sweet and clever boy! 


*I got help, but it was so hard to go talk to someone. I didn't know that it was okay to ask for help. I didn't know that what I was going through was common. It hurt my pride, and that's why I'm more open about it now. I don't want other moms to feel ashamed like I did. 

Wednesday, December 26, 2018

Christmas ABC's

A is for Artificial
the state of our Christmas tree

Christmas 2018 

B is for Bright
like the lights at Temple Square

Christmas 2018 

C is for Cards
Zoe made a personalized one for each
child in her kindergarten class

D is for Dance
All three girls did an in-studio dance performance
for their parents

E is for the Elf Hat
that Zoe bought from Target and wore to school
nearly every day in December

F is for the Festivals
that kept us busy

Christmas 2018 

G is for Gingerbread
houses to create and destroy

Christmas 2018 

H is for the Hill
where we sledded until two kids collided 

Hill 

I is for Injury
and our 7th visit to the ER
Christmas 2018 

J is for Jesus
and the bag full of swaddled babies I had in 
my trunk all month
(they were for singing time in primary)

Christmas 2018 

K is for Kids
the ones who make Christmas fun

Christmas 2018

L is for the LOL Dolls
that are taking over my life

Christmas 2018 

M is for Mary Poppins Returns
which we saw on Christmas Day
(and the theater was INSANE)

N is for Nativity
puppet shows galore

Christmas 2018 

O is for Oven
"Sayonara" to this old thing!
We finally have a replacement!
(but thank you, dear oven, for your many
years of service)

Christmas 2018 

P is for the Photo Booth
at our extended family Christmas party

Photo Booth 

Q is for Quiet
a rare state of our children's existence,
but it happened this one time at Grandma's house

Quiet 

R is for the Romaine Recall
during which I truly suffered!
(I didn't know Romaine was such a big
part of my life!)

Romaine

S is for Snow
which accumulated on my lawn but not my neighbors'
because we live in the Twilight Zone

Christmas 2018

T is for Treats
left for Santa on Christmas Eve

Treats 

U is for Under the Weather
Scotty and I spent Christmas Eve shampooing
puke out of the living room rug

V is for Vacation
the Christmas gift we've been keeping secret
for several months!

Christmas 2018


W is for Work
Because we didn't want our kids to have it too
easy on Christmas morning

Christmas 2018 

X is for X-cessive
amounts of disruptions while trying to write
this post.

Y is for the New Year
for which I'm making ZERO resolutions!

Z is for Zzzs
Because now we all need to settle in for a long winter's nap

Thursday, December 20, 2018

Christmas is Coming, the Goose is Getting Fat (and ten other random facts)

Fact #1: I love the Christmas season, but I'm not sure it's worth the daily horror I'm experiencing with my kids. They are full of the Spirit of December... which I'm pretty sure is evil... like the fruits of the devil.

Fact #2: I'm trying to be more optimistic in my day to day life, so from now on, when my laundry pile looks like this (which is always), I'm going to think "Look how much TV I get to watch!" instead of thinking "Look how much laundry I have to fold!"

December 2018

Fact #3: Last week we had our 7th ER visit of 2018. In previous years, we've averaged a visit about every 1.5 years. I don't know what changed this year, but we really upped our game!

Fact #4:  The reason we went to the ER was because Nicky hit his face on the back of one of our kitchen chairs. He looked like Quasimodo immediately, so I took him to Instacare just for peace of mind. 
{actual image of my son post-injury}

I expected them to say, "Everything is okay! Give him ibuprofen and put an ice pack on it." Instead they said, "He has air pockets in there and probably fractured his face. He needs to go to the ER and have a CT." 

Fortunately, there was no fracture.

Fact #5: This morning I went to the store for what will hopefully be THE LAST TIME until after Christmas. I always feel like I'm prepping for the Apocalypse when I grocery shop for the holidays. At this point, if we don't have it, we will have to either live without it or steal it from a neighbor. I can't go out in public anymore.

Fact #6: I have a habit of eating toast late at night. I was trying to quit this ritual, for health reasons, but then last night, I slipped and made toast, and my squeezable jam plopped out in the shape of a horse:

December 2018

Fact #7: I'm pretty sure that means I should eat toast late at night for the rest of my days. 

Fact #8: I don't care what this company thinks. Ain't no one putting fresh grapes in the roasting pan with the turkey!

December 2018

Fact #9: I hate when my kids take pictures of me because I always end up looking like this:

Family Portraits
"Give me my phone!"
Or this:

Pictures my kids take of me
"Who wants to give Mommy her phone?"
Or this:

Pictures my kids take of me
"Give me my phone! NOW!"

Fact #10: It's great knowing that's what I look like to them. Can't a mom just get her phone back?

Wednesday, December 19, 2018

Kid Quotes

I continue to be blown away by all the things our phones can do. It's amazing to think of everything that can be replaced by a phone - calculators, calendars, six-disc CD changers... heck, even friends!

Someday we will be able to pee on our phones and they will tell us if we're pregnant. Just you wait!

Anyway, one of the things I use my phone for is to keep notes and lists (but not "to do" lists because I can't even) (somewhere on this blog I've written about my aversion for "to do" lists, and if I ever find it, I'll link to it here). 

Some of my notes and lists include:
  • Links to recipes I want to try
  • Ideas for singing time 
  • Blog post ideas
  • Moments I feel that God is real (this is a good one!)
  • Birthday poster ideas
  • Gift ideas
  • Books I want to read
One other note I keep is a list of funny things my kids say. Here are some of my kids quotes from the last couple of months (I only wish I could capture their voices as they say it because their little speech impediments are half the joy!)

"The easiest way to build a man-made lake is to dig a hole and put water in it." 
- Nicky

Wiser words have never been spoken, my dear boy.

"Jimmy Fallon is educational TV. If I didn't watch Jimmy Fallon, I wouldn't have been able to know that Beyonce is married to Jay-Z, and I wouldn't have been able to guess Jay-Z in CatchPhrase." 
- Nicky

He does have a point...

"Eva, let's pretend we can fly and poop on stores!" 
- Zoe

Dream big, Zoe!

"Mom, you were born weird." 
- Nicky

So you're saying it's genetic?

Nicky: I want to make a fried egg, but I have nothing to put it on. 

Me: Put it on toast.

Nicky: No, I mean like a tavern burger.

I don't routinely keep tavern burgers in the house.

"When I grow up I'm going to play two instruments in a band: the guitar and talking loud in a microphone." 
- Zoe

Again with the big dreams! 

One day Eva wouldn't go in the bathroom alone at her grandma's house because she was "too afraid."

Me: What are you "too afraid" of?

Eva: Bad guys and evil cats.

Aren't we all?

Nicky to Eva and Zoe: 

"You two have little kid taste buds, so you like gross things like McDonald's. I have proper adult taste buds, so I prefer gourmet things like KFC."